36 Weeks

I am 36 weeks and 5 days today, it has been a hectic week I must say especially during the weekend for my sister in law’s wedding, I wasn’t that active because my energy wasn’t that high and I get too tired easily. huhu. & everybody says that my stomach has dropped and they assume I would go into labor before my due date…Wallahuaklam.

In my previous post, I have said that my baby was in a breech position at 34 weeks..other than praying and hoping that the baby will turn on its own, I have tried doing specific exercise. This week, I had my ultrasound in RIPAS. and yes, my baby is still breech. They refer me to a specialist, and we talked about options and what it means and so on. She said, if I’m 36 weeks plus pregnant already, the chances of the baby to turn is 2%. But she still want me to be positive, do some exercise. Manatau dengan izin Allah, we have the rezeki of that 2%. Other than that, she gave me 2 options if the baby is still breech. Which is to do a c-section or before that, the doctor will try to massage me and turn the baby around. I haven’t made any decision yet though. But, the doctor had booked me for a c-section in less than 2 weeks.

Honestly, when I found out that the baby is still breech..I was a bit down and was hoping that my baby had turn. and while I was waiting to see my doctor, my mood wasn’t there but I tried to stay calm. and I’m thankful for my doctor because she really calm me down and I end up actually being positive and happy.

I have to be positive because in the end, my baby will sense and know if I’m not. and I really don’t want to give out moody, sad and bad energy especially if i’m really hoping and wanting to have a normal delivery rather than a c-section. It is as if, I’m not happy to see my baby if I were to have an operation. I know the chances of the baby turning is 2% but I will try my best to try to make the baby to turn. I have researched on exercise like ‘sujud’ for 10 minutes, 2 times a day. Shining light at my pelvic area, putting warm things at the pelvic and cold on top. and not forgetting, to pray to Allah for what’s best. But I really don’t want to make ‘normal delivery’ my focus and priority, I know that’s the best option but who really knows what’s the best option for us other than Allah right? I don’t want people and myself to put in mind that c-section is the last and bad option..there is no good or bad option, though I’m trying to turn my baby..I will take c-section with open arms. In the end, only Allah knows what is best for me and my baby. and if the baby is still breech and I have to operate, that is my best option and I’m happy.

I know people get scared that if we were to have an operation, the chance of a normal delivery after that is not high or the chances of having many kids is also not high. But who are we to say actually? Rezeki anak, only Allah knows. and rather than me being too focus on one thing, I want to be focusing on both..as in accepting both options and preparing both for it, and knowing that option in the end..is in fact what is best for me and our baby. In shaa Allah, only He knows.🙂🙂 :) and plus, my doctor is super nice and she says that everything will be okay because me and baby is healthy and normal..and that is a huge relieve, as long as we are okay that is what counts.

Symptoms this week? I’m getting more tired and more heavy in the stomach..I can really feel that my stomach is low. People get confused actually seeing that my stomach has dropped and knowing that I’m having pelvic pressure, stomach tightness and so on, cause that is usually the symptoms when the baby’s head is already engaged. I think, when a baby is breech, I guess the symptoms are different? and my mom said, usually when the baby is breech..you can feel this ‘sanak’ feeling on top of the stomach because of the baby’s head but I don’t have that feeling..in fact, I feel so free on top. Although my symptoms and appearance looks like my baby’s engaged and head down but ultrasound says otherwise. and I have read that the baby can be engaged especially right now but what’s engaged is not the head obviously, but the baby’s bum..and this can actually be more difficult to turn the baby naturally. I have yet to confirm what position our baby is in, and what kind of breech it is.

My visit to the doctor will be weekly and my next appointment will be this Wednesday next week. She will check if our baby is still breech and in shaa Allah we have time, up until the scheduled c-section..my doctor will keep on checking the position. Speaking on trying to turn the baby head down, I have said that I’ve done some exercise..and alhamdulillah, I’m doing it daily so far, but what is still making me not sure and ‘ragu-ragu’ is to have a massage. The doctor strongly advised me not to do it but on the other hand, family members and friends said it’s okay as long as the person who is massaging you really knows what she’s doing and of course have successful outcomes. I am still debating about this, to do it or not? I have not found a person who has experience doing this, just the ones who massage pregnant ladies..but the one who has experience turning the baby around? not yet. That is what scares me because I’ve heard stories both success and the failed one. *sigh*

Overall, I accept any outcome..whether its normal delivery or c-section. As long as mommy and baby is healthy and safe. Aamiin Aamiin Yarabbal Alamin.🙂🙂🙂

2 days for my 37th weeks pregnancy, meaning Full Term!! Alhamdulillah.

Assalamualaikum.

35 Weeks

” Your baby doesn’t have much room to maneuver now. He or she is over 18 inches long and tips the scales at 5 1/4 pounds (pick up a honeydew melon). Because he or she is so snug in your womb, your baby isn’t likely to be doing dramatic somersaults anymore, but the number of movements you feel should remain about the same.

Your baby’s kidney are fully developed now, and his or her liver can process some waste products. Basic physical development is now mostly complete – your baby’s main job over the next few weeks is to put on weight. “ – Baby Center, Pregnancy App

Assalamualaikum,

I am 35 weeks today, syukur ke hadrat Allah SWT.🙂 5 weeks to go..in shaa Allah. It’s getting nearer and preparation for baby’s things is nearly there..we plan to at least finish buying with what baby needs in case he/she comes before my due date. 2 more weeks to the safe zone, after that..I will be relieve and anxious. hehe.

I had 2 appointments this week, one was the normal check up and the next day was an ultrasound appointment. I had an emotional and panic moment actually. As usual during check up, we were asked to lie down so that the nurse can check the heartbeart, measurements and so on. The nurse was trying to feel the baby’s head below but can’t seem to find it..she kept on pressing my abdomen that it hurts, and still can’t feel the baby’s head. She tried feeling and pressing the rest of my stomach. She check the baby’s heartbeat and it’s on my right side, a previous patient had the same problem where the nurse can’t locate the baby’s head..but her baby’s heartbeat was on her left side, which means the baby’s breech. I’m not really sure if there is a specific position for a breech baby, but the nurse seems to be confuse about my baby’s position. Another nurse tried to check also, and could not find the head..I was actually scared and plus it hurts a lot.😦 and she said that my stomach is so tight, and I have been experiencing that all the time.

In the end, they wrote breech with a question mark on my card. Luckily, I was scheduled for an ultrasound the next day. I wasn’t in the mood as I kept on thinking about the baby. I don’t mind if baby’s breech, as long as my baby is healthy and fine. And Alhamdulillah, my baby’s fine.🙂🙂🙂 and yes, my baby is in a breech position. and I am not advised to have a massage, I’m not sure if it’s for the entire pregnancy or until my next ultrasound which will be next week in RIPAS. I have read about baby being breech during 34th week, and it’s normal..they can actually turn on their own. and I really hope my baby will turn on his/her own and stay that way until I give birth. In the end, it comes to izin Allah jua, and no matter what the outcome and position will be, Allah knows best.🙂

and YES, we know the sex of our baby already.🙂🙂🙂 Alhamdulillah. I said, I don’t want a surprise..and we’re glad that we finally know the baby’s gender. I feel more closer to the baby. hehe.

Other than that, there is no new symptoms..just normal like what I experienced during my previous week. I am getting cramps and sharp pains now and then..and it is actually painful that I woke up from my sleep because of the pain. huhu. and my stomach feels two times heavier, and I’m not that tired and breathless anymore. yeay! I guess it has to do with the fact that now my stomach has dropped. I feel so ‘lapang’ on top..the tiredness, cramps and pain all below the stomach now. hehe. and I have gained 3 kilos in 2 weeks, even the nurse was surprised. I hope I didn’t exceed my weight limit, so far I’ve gained 14kg.😀

What to look forward for next week?

My ultrasound in RIPAS and my sister in law’s wedding.🙂 We will be very busy and I hope I can hold myself from being too busy and going here and there, I can’t even walk properly now. haha. and I made 3 maternity dress for the wedding. Excited to finally wear it.🙂 and my cousin from Birau will be getting married at the same day also. Have to figure out when to go for both.

Okay, I have to end my post..it’s getting too long. until the next one in shaa Allah.

34 Weeks

Alhamdulillah, I am 34 weeks pregnant today.🙂 Only 6 weeks until my due date in shaa Allah and only 3 weeks to go for the baby to be mature, meaning after 37 weeks..it is consider okay to give birth.🙂 Honestly, I hope baby comes out before my due date..in shaa Allah, dengan izinNya jua.

” Your baby now weighs about 4 3/4 pounds (like your average cantaloupe) and is almost 18 inches long. Fat layers- which will help regulate your baby’s body temperature after birth – are filling your baby out, making him or her rounder. Your baby’s skin is also smoother than ever.

The central nervous system is maturing, and your baby’s lungs are continuing to mature as well. If you’ve been nervousabout preterm labour, you’ll be happy to know that babies born between 34 and 37 weeks who have no other health problems generally do fine. They may need a short stay in the neonatal nursery and may have a few short-term issues, but in the long run, they usually do as well as full-term babies” – Baby Center, Pregnancy App

Baby continues being active, alhamdulillah. and right now, it’s more into him/her rolling and turning rather than kicking me..I guess less space for the baby to move. I actually can feel and sense how the baby’s position is because I kinda feel his/her bum. hehe. From my last appointment, doctor feels that the babys head is already down and I can feel her/him really down there..the feeling is very ngilu-like. and baby is very active at dawn..and since my sleeping pattern is not normal nowadays, I enjoy having the baby with me whenever I’m still awake.🙂🙂

As for me, I am trying to not really ‘layan’ my laziness and try to be active. I’m not sure if what I’m feeling is Braxton Hicks but if it is it, I am feeling it now and then. I have this two feelings that I have been experiencing, one is the tightness of the stomach. I feel my stomach tightens, making my back hurt so bad..and I feel like my muscles being pulled and expand. and the second one, is cramps..period-like cramps to be exact + diarrhea cramps + backache. I asked my doctor about the second one because whenever I ask my friends, they are always familiar with the tightness rather than the cramps. But the doctor seems confuse at first when I told her what I had experience, and finally she said maybe what I’m feeling is the tightness of the stomach. *sigh* not really sure if she understands me.

My next appointment will be next week and my ultrasound will be on the next day. Do we want to know our babys gender? Of course but I don’t really mind knowing it after giving birth or before, I guess we have to wait and see on the actual day. If we feel like knowing, I will probably ask.😛 Like I have said, my sleeping pattern has changed. I’m not sure if I am experiencing Insomnia, it’s just that I tend to sleep during the day rather than at night. That is why sometimes I force myself to not sleep in the daytime so that I could be tired and sleepy during night. It worked really, but I always end up sleeping back during the afternoon.

People kept on saying that my walk has changed, waddling now. haha..hey, as long as it’s common during pregnancy..and plus, my stomach is heavy now. I can’t wait actually for the baby to come but at the same time, I want to relax and enjoy my pregnancy..cause I know I will miss being pregnant especially feeling the baby inside.🙂 Mudah-mudahan dengan izin Allah, kami dimurahkan rezeki and have a lot of children.😛 Aamiin…

Thank you for reading. Assalamualaikum.🙂

Baby Buys

Assalamualaikum,

Buying baby things is very exciting and overwhelming at the same time. We started to buy the baby’s stuff early February..I was actually overwhelmed with excitement especially buying the baby’s first everything. Since at that time, there was a Chinese New Year sale..it was perfect timing. Me and husband try to focus ourselves by just surveying places first and then discuss about it after that. We certainly do not want to waste on unnecessary things.

First thing I did was to ask my friends for their baby checklist and also youtube on baby’s item must haves. I searched about the most used baby items that they can’t live without. So, this is what I came up with…

FOR BABY

Clothing

  • Two piece clothing (a few for New Born and a few for 3 months+)
  • Baby romper pajamas (the same as above)
  • Baby romper pant-less (the same as above)
  • Mints and Socks
  • Hats
  • Receiving Blankets
  • Swaddle Blankets
  • ‘Barut’
  • Burp Cloth
  • Disposable Diapers / Lampin

Bath

  • Baby Towels
  • Baby Wipes
  • Cotton Wipes
  • Changing Mat
  • Hair and Body Shampoo
  • Lotion
  • Baby Powder
  • Drapolene Cream
  • Vicks
  • Baby Oil
  • Baby Comb and Brush
  • Baby Nail Clipper
  • Baby’s Bathtub

Sleeping

  • Baby’s Crib
  • Mattress (For crib and a small one)
  • Pillows and Bolster
  • Bed Set
  • Baby’s Swing / Bouncer

Travel

  • Stroller
  • Carrier / Car Seat
  • Carrier Bag
  • Diaper Bag
  • Diaper Changing Kit

Feeding

  • Milk Bottles (2 oz & 4 oz)
  • Breast Pump
  • Storage for Milk
  • Sterilizer
  • Bottle Warmer
  • Bottle Drying Rack
  • Bottle Brush
  • Thermometer

FOR MOMMY

  • Breast Pad
  • Maternity Bra
  • Maternity Pad
  • Barut / Badung
  • Jamu

After many many surveys; watching videos and reading blogs. I have summarized and listed the above items of baby buys for new moms. I think that is the basic must haves although I know there are some that is not really necessary. I have divided them into what to buy before the baby comes and after the baby comes. And as a budget mommy, I definitely will focus on the really2 must haves. Like I said, above is just the basics necessities from the research I found.

So far, Alhamdulillah buying baby things is progressing really well…slowly and progressing I must say. Our room is becoming crowded and I have yet to decide about the design especially in deciding where baby’s stuff will go. For right now, his/her stuff is still at the corner..wrapped still. hehe. We’ll take it slow and steady, and avoid being panic at the last minute. *fingers cross*😀

I would really appreciate comments and tips from mommys out there regarding baby’s checklist. I might have missed out on certain things or listing unnecessary things. hehe.

FYI, I still don’t have a clue what to buy for myself especially in preparing for my pantang. *help!!!*

Okay, I think that’s about it. Until my next post…thanks for reading.

My Last Trimester

Alhamdulillah, syukur ke hadrat Allah SWT that we had made it this far.🙂 I have entered the third trimester and so many mixed feelings; happy, excited, scared, nervous, anxious…to name a few.😀 But before I continue writing about the current time, I want to recap the details I experienced throughout my previous 2 trimester.

First things first, I found out that I was pregnant in September..after Hari Raya. (I think so..) and I don’t know if every newly wife feels the same as me..which is that I became very aware of my body and the changes. and I bet every newlywed will tell you that your hormones and body will change after getting married, and this will automatically lead to the question of “am I pregnant?” or “is this a sign of pregnancy?” arghhh…the pressure right???

Although there were many new symptoms and changes in hormones, I never really had that feeling that I was pregnant. Until the time that I was actually pregnant. hehe. It was not only the signs, but I had that gut feeling..not like the previous ones. That feeling that this time, it’s different. My gut feeling was so strong that I had the urge to check the pregnancy test, although I haven’t past my period due and it was at night time. I read that if you want the accurate reading, do it in the morning..the first morning urine. I didn’t care..I just follow my gut and tawakal tawakal tawakal.

and Alhamdulillah, positive! I didn’t believe it at first, but then I tried again with another test..and two lines! I was shocked because it was very visible, and I haven’t past my due. I guess I must have calculated it wrong. hehe.

First Trimester

I didn’t really have any bad reaction like severe vomiting and nausea. All I can remember at that time, I don’t have any appetite at all..not that I don’t have any appetite because I feel nausea, just the ‘selera’ was gone. I remember eating Zinger Burger from KFC all the time because at that time, that is all I want to eat. and the worst part is, still from this day the number one food that I still don’t have the ‘liur’ to eat is Nasi Ayam Penyet from Pondok Seri Wangi.😦 A bummer, really!! It’s one of my favorite dish. I remember ordering it, and I just stood there looking down at the food and nada selera.. just no selera at all. Before, I can just picture Nasi Penyet, and I will get hungry automatically. hehe.

Overall, my 1st trimester I didn’t get enough food because my appetite was not really there, making my stomach empty most of the time..meaning I was having gastric pain constantly. Yes, that was the only that I wish I don’t have throughout my pregnancy. My nausea wasn’t that bad..but my gastric were. huhu. Actually, the reason why I feel nausea was because I didn’t eat anything..and there’s a time where i did puke because of it.

Second Trimester

I feel my very best during this period. I finally got my appetite back and I slowly can eat anything (not penyet..) I barely remember what went on and how I felt during my 2nd trimester because it was so normal that sometimes I didn’t feel that I was pregnant. My stomach wasn’t showing that much yet and the hormones, appetite and moods were normal. Maybe by the end of the 2nd trimester it got real. I think after 20 weeks, I started feeling pregnant.

The best feeling is when I first started feeling the baby’s kick. I can’t remember what week it was, and I wasn’t sure if it was a kick or just gas. but I was confident that the first time I felt was actually the baby’s kicking.🙂

Third Trimester

I just entered my final trimester, I am currently 29 weeks plus and so far, my pregnancy has been a little up and down. I am definitely feeling all the symptoms..cramps, heavy breathing, backaches, etc etc. I can’t even stand/sit at the same position for more than 10 minutes. I feel tired all the time, and I decided to take a break from baking because of this.

The best part is that we have started to buy things for the baby.🙂 Alhamdulillah, we have managed to get plenty of baby things..but there are more still to buy. and I realized that my energy to shop decreases. I have to limit myself to one shop a day..two the very most. and one of the best thing is feeling my baby move and kick everyday.😀 I know at this time, I have to count the number of movements/kicks the baby make in an hour..so far, alhamdulillah the baby is very active. Sometimes the movement is a bit painful especially when I feel his/her kicks on my sides.

My appetite for this trimester is really high! I am hungry all the time..I can eat rice for 3 rounds and still feel hungry. :p I don’t mind indulging on everything once in a while because I didn’t gain as much for the last 6 months, and I plan on making it my mission to gain for this trimester, a normal increase that is.😀 and I continued with drinking milk..alhamdulillah everyday. I tried chocolate milk from ANMUM at first, then I tried milk..and surprisingly it tasted better than the chocolate. I have never been a fan of milk..and I’m glad I can drink it now. It’s good for the baby’s skin and bones!

Time flies very fast and I can’t believe I am already 7 months plus, 2 months+ more to go until my due date! Other than trying to relax, I am anxious and excited on shopping for baby things. All of this, will be on another post in shaa Allah. I really hope I can update this blog more often..until next time.

Assalamualaikum.🙂

my 2012

Tomorrow will be the first day of 2013…

There are no words to describe my 2012. A year full of huge and heavy obstacle, a year of drama, sweat, tears, laughter. A year like no other.

There are so many things happened this year..and it thought me many things. Yes, most of it I wished it didn’t happened but as I view it as a whole and in a positive way..I know there’s a reason behind all of it. In sya Allah I became stronger.

As the time went by and 2013 is approaching, I try to reflect and think positive on the things that had happened. What it meant, what’s the rainbow behind the rain, what I can learn from it. and I realize something…

I have been too caught up in this world…too busy chasing my dunia that I forgot and didn’t care at all about my akhirat. I have spend so much time preparing, deciding, trying to make perfect for my world and not realizing that it didn’t at all have anything to do with my akhirat. Yes, some of it is a preparation of the akhirat but the way I have done it? not even close to ‘mencapai keredhaan Allah’. I realize that I was lost. People always think that the person who is lost or is far from Allah is the ones that is too social, or violent, in other words physically a bad person. But a person who looks normal or maybe dress appropriately and have no bad rep, still can be far from Allah..chasing his/her dunia. A person like myself. A really normal typical girl, thinking of making something better for herself in this world and thinking that she has done nothing ‘bad’ but the fact is, she is too caught up and not really focusing on her afterlife; her akhirat.😦

I use to think why would Allah give me obstacle that is so bad that I sometimes don’t think I can manage it, even if I said to myself Allah will never give ‘ujian luar dari kemampuan hambanya’. I know a fact that it’s true but sometimes I feel it’s too much. Then I started to think more and began to realize maybe what I was thinking is one of ‘hasutan syaitan’, which is to let us humans loose faith in Allah, especially in times like this. Who are we saying we can’t do this or that, and the ujian is too much when in fact Allah said that He will not give a/an test/obstacle that we can’t handle. Am I that arrogant saying this is too much and not caring what Allah had said, when we all know in the end Allah knows best?

I am still learning and in the process of trying to upgrade myself and be a better hamba. I get knocked down a thousand of times in this process, by myself, my tests and of course the hasutan syaitan. I know now the reason why a huge obstacle is given to me, not just once but repeatedly. Allah loves me and Allah misses me. I don’t care now if I don’t have this or that, or why this happened, the usual why why why??? Everyone has its own test and, its ups and downs..and mine is this. I am trying to be grateful of what had happened and I am, because Allah wants me to wake up! and I pray strongly that I’ll be awake everyday every time and not be drifted away by dunia anymore.

I have a huge responsibility coming my way…

Not only that I am trying to become a better hamba to Allah, also a better wife to my husband and now I am learning and preparing myself to be a better Mother to our baby. Yes, I am currently PREGNANT.🙂 22 weeks pregnant to be exact, about 5 months plus. He/she is the reason why I must force myself to wake up. From the first time you know that you’re pregnant, is actually the start where you are a Mother because even if the baby is not born yet, you still have to nurture and care for your pregnancy. a Mother to our unborn child.🙂

My hopes and dreams for 2013?

Just one. To be closer to Allah..every time, every day, constantly wanting to be closer.

I know if I try to be closer and let Allah be in my constant prayer, thoughts and in my heart, it will eventually lead me to be a better muslimah, a better wife to my husband, a better daughter to my parents/in laws, a better sister to my siblings/in laws, and most of all..a great Mother to our child. In sya Allah….

Let Allah always be in our thoughts day and night. My hopes is for 2013 be a better year for all of us, in terms of everything..family, career, and especially in upgrading our iman.

I don’t like you 2012, but I don’t hate you either.🙂

Sifat-Sifat Isteri Solehah

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Mentaati Perintah Suami
 
Isteri yang mentaati suami dengan cara yang baik, menuruti perintah macam apa pun, kecuali jika suami memerintahkannya kepada kederhakaan. Jika apa yang diperintahkan suami tidak sesuai dengan keinginannya, maka dia menunggu kesempatan yang tepat dan memungkinkan untuk membuat suaminya berkenan, dengan yang adil, tidak dengan cara membantah, tidak membangkang, apalagi bertengkar sehingga terpaksa menerima pendapatnya. 
 
Sebab suamilah yang berhak menjadi pemimpin di dalam rumahtangga, sesuai dengan apa yang dianugerahkan Allah. Jadi keputusan perlu ada di tangan suami. Andaikata isteri menghadapi suami dengan lapang dada dan dia sudah mengetahui bahawa suamilah yang menjadi pemimpin di dalam rumah dan perintahnya perlu ditaati, maka tidak ada buruknya jika dia meminta kepada suaminya untuk bersikap adil dalam setiap keputusannya, yang tentu sahaja permintaannya ini mesti disertai dengan alasan yang boleh diterima. 
 
Sebab apa pun yang ada pada dirinya adalah milik suaminya dan dia perlu sependapat dengan suaminya. Dengan cara ini segala urusan akan dapat berjalan lancar, tanpa ada masalah yang menyekat kebahagiaannya.
 
 
Berasa Senang Apabila Suami Memandangnya
 
Isteri solehah adalah isteri yang membuat suaminya senang apabila dia memandang dirinya. Tidak ada yang dilihat si suami melainkan membuat dadanya lapang dan senang. Dia menguntumkan dengan seulas senyuman yang menawan dan pandangan yang memancarkan rasa cinta, kasih sayang dan kelembutan. Dia sedap dipandang, mengenakan pakaian yang rapi dan harum semerbak baunya. 
 
Setiap kali si suami memandangnya dalam keadaan seperti itu, tentu hatinya akan berbunga-bunga, sehingga dia merasakan seakan-akan ditangannya ada hadiah sangat berharga yang diberikan Allah kepadanya, sehingga dia akan sentiasa menjaga hadiah itu dan tidak mahu ia lepas dari tangannya. 
 
Dengan begitu suami tidak akan memandang kepada hal-hal yang diharamkan Allah, tidak berusaha lari rumah, untuk mencari kesenangan dan kebahagiaan di luar rumahnya. Sebab isterinya telah menyediakan iklim kehidupan yang nyaman untuk didiami, setelah si suami bersusah payah sepanjang hari mencari sesuap kehidupan. 
 
Dengan cara ini bererti isteri telah membuat Rabbnya redha, membahagiakan suami, mendapat limpahan rasa cinta dan perhatiannya. 
 
 
Penuh Kasih Sayang Dan Memerhatikan Suaminya
 
Isteri solehah adalah isteri yang mengasihi suami, membuatnya redha, melakukan segala sesuatu yang disukainya dan menghindari apa-apa yang dibencinya, sehingga suami melihat pada dirinya apa yang disukainya, merasakan apa yang menyenangkannya dan mendengar darinya apa-apa yang diredhainya. 
 
Jika suami tidak mendapatkan di dalam rumahnya seorang isteri yang lemah lembut, penuh kasih sayang, selalu berkeadaan bersih, mengukir senyuman, tidak mendengar perkataan yang baik, tidak mendapatkan cinta yang tulus, akhlak Islam yang mulia dan tangan yang menjulurkan cinta, lalu dimanakah dia harus mendapatkan semua itu?
 
 
Menolong Suami Dalam Urusan Agama Dan Dunia
 
Isteri solehah adalah isteri yang sentiasa mendorong suaminya kepada hal-hal yang baik dalam urusan agama dan dunia, menganjurkannya supaya berpegang kepada syariat Islam, sama ada yang fardhu mahupun yang sunat, mendorongnya untuk melakukan segala sesuatu yang dapat mendekatkan diri kepada Allah, seperti silaturrahim dan berbakti kepada kedua orang tua dan menjauhkannya dari hal-hal yang dibenci ALlah. 
 
Dia harus selalu ingat bahawa dia akan menjadi ibu bagi anak-anaknya, yang di kemudian hari mereka akan menjadi dewasa dan menikah serta berbakti kepadanya. Dia juga perlu mengingatkan suaminya tentang sebuah hadis sahih yang bermaksud:
 
“Berbaktilah kepada bapa-bapa kamu, nescaya anak-anak kamu akan berbakti kepada kamu.”
 
Dia juga perlu menjalin hubungan dengan keluarga suaminya, agar memperoleh keredhaan Allah dan keredhaan suami, iaitu ketika suami melihatnya menjalin hubungan dengan keluarganya. Maksudnya ialah agar dengan cara ini tidak wujud perselisihan antara dirinya dan keluarga suaminya seperti yang sering terjadi pada masa sekarang. 
 
Isteri solehah juga perlu menganjurkan suaminya untuk menjauhi mata pencarian yang haram. Para isteri orang-orang salaf yagn solehah biasa mengatakan kepada suaminya yang hendak pergi untuk bekerja, “bertakwalah kepada Allah dan janganlah engkau memberi makan kami dengan sesuatu yang haram. Sesungguhnya kami masih boleh sabar menghadapi rasa lapar dan kami tidak boleh bersabar menerima panasnya api neraka.”
 
Isteri solehah juga menganjurkan suaminya untuk bangun malam dan juga menyertainya dalam solat itu, agar rahmat Allah turun kepada mereka, sebagaimana yang disabdakan Rasulullah SAW yang bermaksud:
 
“Allah merahmati seorang lelaki yang bangun dari sebahagian malam lalu mendirikan solat, dan membangunkan isterinya. Jika isterinya enggan bangun, dia akan memercikkan air ke wajahnya. Dan ALlah merahmati seorang wanita yang bangun dari sebahagian malam lalu mendirikan solat dan membangunkan suaminya. Jika suaminya enggan bangun, maka dia akan memercikkan air ke wajahnya.” (Riwayat Ahmad dan Abu Darda)
 
Sokongan seorang isteri terhadap suami dalam urusan agama ialah dengan cara mengatur dan menjaga harta suaminya, tidak menuntut kecuali apa yang diperlukannya, tidak membelanjakan kecuali menurut apa yang diperintahkan suami. 
 
Seorang isteri bertanggungjawab terhadap pengeluaran harta suami bukan pada jalan kebaikan. Sebab dia bertugas mengatur semua urusan rumahtangga. Harta yang melimpah bukan bererti tidak perlu ada pengurusan. Sebab tanpa ada pengurusan, kehidupan rumahtangga menjadi kacau bilau dan runtuh. 
 
Isteri yang pemboros merupakan musuh bagi dirinya sendiri dan menjadi bencana bagi suaminya. Dengan tangannya dia akan menghabiskan harta suami. Berapa ramai isteri yang menghancurkan rumahtangganya kerana tidak pandai mengurus kewangan dan berapa ramai pula isteri yang mampu menegakkan kehidupan rumahtangganya kerana dia pandai mengatur kewangan. 
 
Selagi suami melihat isterinya bersikap ekonomis, pandai mengatur kewangan dan menjaga hartanya, nescaya kecintaannya akan semakin bertambah, begitu pula kepercayaannya. Sehingga suami akan menyerahkan semua harta ke tangannya dan memberinya kebebasan untuk mengaturnya. 
 
Si suami percaya bahawa dia tidak akan membawa hartanya kepada kehancuran. Malahan boleh jadi dia justeru mengembangkannya. Menerusi kepercayaan ini akan tercipta kehidupan rumahtangga yang bahagia, jauh dari berbagai masalah kewangan, seperti yang sering kali kita dengarkan, yang disebabkan oleh cara pengurusannya yang kurang baik dari pihak isteri.
 

The List…

Alhamdulillah, we’ve been married for more than 3 weeks now. I could never been happier, but sadly..today dear husband starts working.😦 rindu yang teramat sangat…seriously.

I’m really sorry for abandoning this blog, dulu..I always get curious on why newlyweds jarang update their blog anymore and I understand now. haha. Other than wanting to spend time every minute and second with husband, our responsibilities and duties pun bertambah. hehe. Sementara hubby kerja ani, I might as well update here kan? mostly to avoid feeling the ‘rindu’ pulang ni. LOL. sorry….hahah.

I will start by listing out the vendors that helped in making our big day a special one.🙂

Nikah:

MUA – Hajah Zaleha & Haji Zaidi

Doorgifts – Beras Kebun from my Grandparents

Attire – Materials ; bought in KL

             – Tailoring ; Anyati Tailoring

Accessories – Roza Rohaya

Pelamin – Ruzz Enterprise

 

Bedak Malam

MUA – Suzy RTB & Haji Zaidi

Doorgifts – Orang membedaki ;  glass container from Mangkuk Emas

                    – Jemputan ; Biscuits from Mahani M&Z Home Bakery

Attire – Anma Bridal Boutique

Accessories – Anma Bridal Boutique

Pelamin – Ruzz Enterprise

 

Bersanding

MUA – Suzy Niekman & Haji Zaidi

Doorgifts – Muffins from Pepperina’s Kitchen

Attire – Material ; Firoz Jaya & YMRM

             – Tailoring ; Nie, Kiulap

Accessories – Anma Bridal Boutique (Groom) & Roza Rohaya (Bride)

Pelamin – Ruzz Enterprise

Walkway Deco – Ruzz Enterprise

Tempat Membasuh Kaki – Dewan Sumbangsih

Qasidah – Fellas Ensemble

 

Others

Photographer – Syazwany El-Hakeem

Invitation Cards – Ezy Printing

 

So far, ani saja dulu..Insya Allah, I will give out the reviews on each vendors and also I will def. share my experience.🙂

Happy Wednesday.

Assalamualaikum.

a quick update…

Assalamualaikum friends,

I haven’t been blogging since I got married, really sorry for that. I know I have promised some reviews and insya Allah some pictures. hehe. Nothing much really, the reason why I haven’t been updating this blog is that I have been sick since after my sanding…until now. huhu. It got worst actually, my temperature suddenly naik today.😦

Been resting a lot this week and dear husband is awesome for taking care of me.🙂 Though in this ‘honeymoon’ phase I couldn’t be me 100% but I am so grateful to know what wonderful, amazing husband Allah has given me. :’)

Other than that, I am loving my job as a wife.🙂 I’m still learning and so far, I love taking the role of a wife. Insya Allah I will always love being a wife. :p & it looks like, we will not go for our honeymoon because of a reason. Insya Allah, murah rezeki..nanti2 saja. hehe. Lagipun, it wouldn’t be that much fun going on vacation with me being sick.

Mudahan I will get better, insya Allah.🙂 goodnight.

& as promised (ani dulu k..haha)…

Alhamdulillah. :)

I am officially a Mrs.🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂

Alhamdulillah, syukur ke hadrat Allah SWT majlis akad nikah berjalan dengan sempurna.🙂

I will insya Allah write a proper post about the event, right now I have to focus on to the next!! hehe.

p.s: I am truly & sincerely HAPPY and GRATEFUL. *tears*

Assalamualaikum.

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