Monthly Archives: April, 2012

Mencari Keredaan Suami.

RASULULLAH saw bersabda, yang bermaksud:

“Seorang isteri yang bermuka muram di hadapan suaminya, maka ia dalam kemurkaan Allah hingga ia dapat membuat suasana yang riang gembira kepada suaminya dan memohon kerelaannya. “

Begitulah besarnya harga senyuman seorang isteri
kepada suaminya kerana senyuman akan mencetuskan suasana kegembiraan yang sebenarnya dikehendaki suami ketika pulang dalam keletihan.

Muka yang masam bukan saja akan menimbulkan kemarahan suami, malahan menyebabkan Allah turut murka dan kemurkaan Allah itu berkekalan hingga isteri berjaya mengembalikan suasana gembira serta memohon keampunan daripada suami. 

Sesungguhnya keredaan Allah terletak pada keredaan suami.

Justeru, apabila suami pulang segeralah bukakan pintu, persilakan masuk dengan penuh hormat dan ciumlah tangan suami sebagai tanda hormat serta meminta maaf,walaupun isteri merasakan tidak berbuat sebarang kesalahan pada hari itu.

Sebuah hadis ada menyebut bahawa apabila seorang suami bersalaman dengan isterinya, maka gugurlah segala dosa dari celah-celah jari mereka berdua.

Andai mempunyai anak-anak, ajarlah mereka itu untuk selalu bersalaman dengan ayahnya kerana kelaziman akan memupuk rasa kasih dan hormat anak-anak kepada orang tua.

Kebahagiaan rumahtangga terletak pada akhlak dan budi pekerti isteri.

Biarpun seorang isteri itu tidak cantik tapi jika cukup sempurna layanannya terhadap suami dan berakhlak pula, tentu ia akan menjadi penghibur dalam rumahtangga.

Oleh itu wahai isteri, hendaklah berlumba-lumba untuk menjadi seorang isteri yang solehah, yang bertakwa, berakhlak mulia dan taat kepada suami.

Rasulullah saw bersabda, yang bermaksud:

“Sungguh-sungguh memintakan ampun untuk seorang isteri yang berbakti kepada suaminya, iaitu burung-burung diudara, ikan-ikan di air dan malaikat di langit selama dia sentiasa dalam kerelaan suaminya.”

Jika seorang isteri mengharap cintanya berbalas, maka banyakkan mencari keredhaan Allah melalui keredhaan suami.

Sucikanlah 4 hal dengan 4 perkara :

“Wajahmu dengan linangan air mata keinsafan,

Lidahmu basah dengan berzikir kepada Penciptamu,

Hatimu takut dan gementar kepada kehebatan Rabbmu,
dan ……….

Dosa-dosa yang silam disulami dengan taubat kepada Dzat yang
memilikimu.”

DIY Tuesday; Save The Date project!

Assalamualaikum,

This is my first DIY project post. 🙂 I actually wanted to make it a weekly thing but I don’t have any specific day to choose, since today is alreay Tuesday, let’s make it DIY Tuesday! 😀

Save The Date is my first completed DIY. haha. I know! & it’s actually the latest project that I start. I wanted to have Save The Date especially for friends, so that they will know and maybe will ‘book’ that date for me. 🙂 and I planned to have it a month so before the wedding.

I know this isn’t practiced here in Brunei, but I have always wanted to have it to remind my friends so that they will know in advance and maybe will not make other plans. :p and also because, Insya Allah I will start distributing my invitations in the end of april – early may. Better not to give it out early, because people tend to forget about it. huhu. and since todays technology is very canggih and convenient, you can just make it for FREE and post it in Facebook!

My original plan was to make a video, but not exactly be in it..just a simple video telling the date and so on. tapi, takut lagging punya pasal..we decided to just make a picture. A simple one. I started making it this morning, because my creative juice was flowing. it’s just a simple picture, direct and plain? hehe.

here you go..

simple right? 🙂 This is one of the DIY that will not cost you a dime. so, why not. hehe.

Insya Allah, I will post weekly DIY ideas and project; before & after the wedding. 🙂

Goodnight friends.

Alhamdulillah. At last… :)

I am very happy and grateful that after all this while, Registration of Kursus Nikah is finally settled! A very big relief indeed. I could never be more thankful. I know maybe people will say ‘sekadar’ kali but in our case, we had a lot of obstacles and problems to go through.

Firstly, I knew from the very start that if one or both of the couple is working under ABDB, the procedure is a bit different. So, I didn’t even bother to go to Mahkamah Syariah. I thought it all starts and only be in ABDB’s offices/compound. I don’t really want to recap all the details, because it was really stressful. What I can say is; we did the procedure backwards. Ambil borang 1 & 2 pulang yang last. haha. Walaupun stress and menimbulkan kemarahan 😀 but it did gave us a bit of semangat in the end. Especially this couple of days, when we wanted to give the completed borang back to Mahkamah Syariah, our car got ‘sick’! *I know!!!* hehehe. delay lagi couple of days..and alhamdulillah, today was the day.

Even though, there were problems along the way..from the start until the very last part, I could not be more thankful. Ada hikmah disebalkinya. Mungkin, kalau kami kan menghantar on the intended date..one of us moody or ada tia masalah. Alhamdulillah, everything went smooth sailing tadi. Our moods pun great. 🙂 exhausted yes! but we were able to laugh all the way. Before this, stress if kan pikirkan ani. LOL. There were still a few problems here and there, but always stay positive right? 🙂 Ani baru half day, mudahan the mood and the happiness berpanjangan. hehe. I will maybe go for my fitting later. I hope I will be happy with the results. If yes, then it’s a great day!

Here’s the step to step process;

1. Go to Mahkamah Syariah BSB, tingkat 1.

  • Take Borang 1 & Borang Pengesahan Ketua kampung for Groom
  • Take Borang 2, Borang Wali and Borang Pengesahan Ketua Kampung for Bride

2. Ambil Borang Kebenaran Berkahwin ABDB (I think arah admin your own tempat kerja)

  • they need; 7 copies of your spouse’s IC, 7 copies of your IC and pengesahan ketua kampung for both.

3. Complete kan dulu borang ABDB (1st ketua kg actually. hehe) and bagi tempat orang yang sepatutnya di bagi. (fiance yang buat, that’s why I don’t know. 😛) and you have to wait maybe a week or more, I think mine took 2 weeks.

4. If siap dah, they will give you 7 envelopes;

  • 1 for groom’s Ketua Kampung
  • 1 for Pejabat Ugama MINDEF
  • 2 for Mahkamah Syariah
  • 3 for MINDEF

5. Go to Mahkamah Syariah and pay $20 and then give the completed borang and details to the place where you take your borang before. They will tell you when to take the Borang 4 (Kebenaran Berkahwin) – mine will be on 7th May. 🙂

6. Go to Pejabat Ugama di Bolkiah, and after giving the letter you have to fill in another form to register for the Kursus Nikah. (pick available dates dulu.)

7. the last 3 envelopes for MINDEF, fiance yang uruskan..so I’m not sure where exactly. hehe.

I think that’s about it.

About our dates. Alhamdulillah and syukur once again for this. I thought we will be having our course after the wedding, but thankfully ada kosong before that. Our course will be on the 23rd and 24th of April, Insya Allah 🙂

It will be a 2 day course but pagi and petang. and couples sama-sama datang. I will elaborate about it after we had our kursus. Insya Allah. and you have to pay $8.00 for the books (groom and bride).

I hope this helps. 🙂 hehe, panjang post ani. 😛

Thanks for reading. Assalamualaikum.

Rants.

Assalamualaikum and Happy Tuesday people.

Sunyi banar blog ani. I actually don’t know what to update. hehe. As usual, things got pretty busy. We have to settle what’s on the checklist. So far, okay lah..going slowly and smoothly. What I can say is, the making of my Sanding campur is alhamdulillah, very fast. Thanks to my family for this. I am focusing on that right now. Super Bride for my campur! haha.

I do give time for other things though, like booking here and there. One thing that I neglected all this while is exercising and dieting. *arghhh* I used to love exercise, but now..macam barat rasanya. *that means I have a lot of FAT! LOL* I hope to at least loose a few kilos..need to work my butt off! *not literally.. :D* and plus! Nie have messaged me to come for my fitting, semangat tarus kan exercise esp do sit ups..haha. Rasa kan look good time fiitting. & Cannot eat before that. haha.

I don’t mind working as much, as long as I can finish it by end of April. Ohh please, let MAY be my relax time. Super Bride is ON right now and Princess Bride will be on next month. haha. yes, pampering time for me.

Ok, before dreaming about that, I have to focus on right now. On my work! Countdown time…

We have;

  • 1 month, 2 weeks & 3 days
  • 47.5 days
  • 6 weeks & 5 days
  • 7 weekends
  • 7 sundays

more to our Nikah!

and that means…

We have;

  • 27.5 days
  • 3 weeks and 6 days
  • 4 weekends
  • 4 sundays

more to finish all my wedding preparations! *yikes*

Let say April will be the storm/rain before the Rainbow comes (May). hehe.

Ya Allah, tabahkan & tenangkanlah hati & semangat kami untuk menempuhi segala dugaanMu. Berkatilah & restuilah urusan and keputusan kami. Amin Ya Rabb.

To brides/groom who is in the same position as me, be strong and stay positive. 🙂 Tawakal and berserah saja on what might happen. the chances of a last minute problem or hiccups will occur, esp at times like this when we usually leave out the small things. Unnecessary problems selalu timbul, ada tia rusak, and problem with this and that. All I can say is, STAY & THINK POSITIVE! Ada tah reasonnya tu if a problem happened. Usually something better will come out of it. Insya Allah. Allah inda akan menyusahkan tani and selalu membagi hambaNya yang terbaik.

Selalu bersangka baik terhadap Allah. 🙂 Kalau tani redha dengan segala ujian and dugaanNya, Insya Allah, Allah akan redha and berkati urusan and majlis tani. 🙂

I’ll write a proper post next time. hehe.