I was browsing the net just now and it got me thinking on whether I want a bridesmaid or just go with flower girl/boy? This is for my Sanding event. Here’s the pros & cons for both;

Bridesmaid:

• I have a respectful number of friends and close friends but I don’t have a lot of really2 close friends that I want to be my bridesmaid.
• The only people that I feel comfortable and confident enough that they will not only take care of me, but my nerves, the function etc is only my 2 best friends.
• Is 2 enough for a bridesmaid? how about cousins u say? unfortunately, me and cousins from dad side (because they are at the same age as mine) are not close.
• But what I love on having a bridesmaid is that they are helpful esp the person’s closest to you. I know my best friends very well and I know they are happy for me..I’m their baby sister, and it would be nice to have them close all the time.
• If 2 person is okay..I’m still not sure if my best friends want to be my bridesmaid, because 1st) one of them is in UK & i really2 hope she’ll be back before my wedding. (need to give her support to finish her work on time :P) 2nd) They are both married, I need to ask their husband first about this as the task of a bridesmaid is to be with me all the time. (maybe make a plan so that both sides will be okay.) and 3rd) my other best friend will be 6 or 7 months pregnant insyaAllah at that time and In sya Allah if murah rezeki, my other best friend pun pregnant on my wedding day.
• There are many what if’s surrounding my brain. I just want to be real..I know I have yet to ask them, but what makes me hold my thought are the above reasons. I have jokingly said before the three of us were still ‘bujang’, I said..what if both of you are pregnant during my event. You both will look cute for a bridesmaid. 😀 wish coming true? hehe

Flower girl/boy:

• I have a lot of anak buah from both parents’ side and fiance’s side.
• But not many are brave enough to face the crowd, If I can count and pick the ones that I am confident will do the job superb is well..around 2 or 3 person only. Yes, they might look very active and naughty but when dealing with strangers (this case A LOT), they will usually hide and run to their parents.
• If this plan works, I was thinking of wearing them baju melayu, with sinjang, dastar & their own mini keris. CUTE!!!! but what will the girls wear?

See, last2..it seems like inda cukup orang for both the adults & the kids. *sigh* and if I can’t figure this out on time, I think I will be left with nothing. Ohh, my sisters? one will be my pengiap which is my youngest sister. & one will be in Malaysia to study. If she comes to my wedding pun, she will not be around before that for the bridesmaid task.

Any suggestions on what should I do? I know this isn’t the worst thing that can happened but it will be a nice touch if they were there. (I am rooting for bridesmaid actually, this is more on the ‘make me not nervous’ aspect. :D) Until next time, need to discuss more and ask the best friends about this. *finger’s cross*

Assalamualaikum. 🙂

p.s: Ohh, I thought of something! What if I combine the two? The bridesmaid hand in hand with the flower girl/boy? & since the kids are hand in hand with the adults, we can add the shy ones. hehe.